July 14, 2007

Building Self Esteem from Self

Building Self Esteem for most of us is a challenge. I
conducted stress management programs for many years and in the
program is a segment on the stress of one’s self worth.
Inevitably 99% of those attending the programs or those I worked with in private
practice had significant self esteem issues. These were for the
most part professionals who were accomplished with excellent educations.
What are the causes of low self esteem? When each of us
was born most likely we were the apple of one or both parent’s eyes. As infants
we could do no wrong. Of course there are exceptions to every rule and there
were a small percentage of us born to the wrong parents-maybe it was a karmic
thing. By in large as babies 99% of us were loved by our parents, grandparents,
siblings0 We were perfect in their eyes. If those feelings of importance
would have continued, none of us would have self esteem issues.
When did it all change? Did it change when we cried at night and awakened our
parents too often because of colic? Did it happen when we broke an heir loom
accidentally? Was it something of this nature that angered our parents and they
realized that we were a pain in the butt? Or did […]